My brothers, do you really know about yourselves? Do you really know about your weaknesses and strength? Some of us will never know because we are ignorant and some of us had been in that position and God opened our eyes and now we can see how wicked is our kinds. I was one of that guy. I know that men are different, but from my experiences I am pretty sure that we are more or less similar, for men understand each others better.
Brothers, it is our nature to be a hunter, to be a fighter. Since the fallen of the world, God has cursed the ground so that through painful toil, man will eat of it all the days of his life. Man need to remove all thorns and thistles before man plant crops, man have to hunt animals for food and man also need to fight with wild animals to protect their people or fight another men from another tribes to defend their territory. Because of that, men learn how to improve themselves better, to increase their physical strength more, to plan strategies well, to work in group but also to be a single fighter and to be senseless. Our world is tough, hard and wild.
We need strategies to defeat and trap our prey and once we capture it, proud and satisfiction filled our heart. We need to learn how to work together with other men not because we want to help each other, but just because we have the same purpose. Inside our heart, we want to be the best, we want to be the leader. We learn how to "use and manipulate" other people who are weaker than us. We have law of jungle, the stronger rule the weaker and the strongest one is the king.
Each of us want to be the best even though there are lots of people stronger than us, but we keep thinking, "today I lost but tomorrow I will win" it continues for the rest of our life, some people are tired keep thinking like that and willing to serve the stronger, agree with them; but some people still have that kind of mind, frictions will always be involved among men. Never satisfied and ambitious, that the words to describe men.
In home, because we have worked hard all days long, we just want to be served and enjoy the rest of the day, so that in the next day we can work well again. We don't want to hear any problems arise from home, "I am tired looking for prey and now you don't allow me to rest" said the men. Because we always deal with animals and enemies out there, our heart is so hard, so senseless. We don't want to understand people's problem. "I have no interest on it. That's non of my business". That's mostly happen in men's mind.
Our pride is too much. We don’t want to lose, we don’t want to show our weaknesses, we don’t want somebody take over us, we want to rule, we want to be the best. When we go home after hunting with other men and start dividing our prey, we start making agreement. I worked harder than you, I should get more than you. We can't share equally. We want to be the best, we want to get the most. Men are selfish, don't care much about others.
Because we are trained to be a hunter, our eyes are so good. We can see our prey from far away. Nothing can escape from our sight and we will start to react immediately when something catch our eyes. It also becomes our weakest problem for we easily tempted with something that catch our eyes, we can't believe in something until we see it first. We use our logic and understanding in reasoning for we have been trapped by enemies, we have lost lots of prey when we are not careful, we have almost died when we made wrong decision.
Because of that, we must first sit down and think not only twice but again and again. We wouldn't believe our ears and heart, but we believe so much in our eyes. We are good in making long-term planning and decision, but we are so dumb in making decision in short time. My brothers, when you have serious problem that need to be fixed soon, just call your wife or your mother and let her guide you for women are good on it and it works well. Again, I talk in general, women and men please don't be angry with me. ^_^ I just want us to understand each other better. As I have written about our sisters, now I just want to talk about men in general. Actually, I am an engineer, not psycholog. I used to deal with laboratory stuff and reactor not human being, but God opened my eyes wider.
Now I want to ask you, my brothers about what is in your mind when you see gir? Do you see her as an object of pride or someone you need to protect? Do you see her as an object for your mating period or someone to live together until the rest of your day? Do you see her as a slave in home or as a mother of your children and suitable helper and manager in home? Do you see her with love or with lust?
Be careful with with your eyes. If you see only from appearance, you will be deceived. Not all the women out there honest and have good heart, the same thing with men out there. But still, I would encourage you to love them unconditionally. I believe, no matter how wicked the people are, they still have heart and if you can touch their heart deep inside them, they will open theirselves to you and you will be a good friend. It is better to have friends rather than have enemies, is it not? You are in the middle of wolves, therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves (Matthew 10:16). Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man and he will love you (Proverbs 9:8).
If you still see girl as an object not a person, if you have lust not love and if you still can't control yourself, you still have lots of beast inside you, you are not a man yet, you are a boy.
If you pick up a wife just because she is adorable, sexy, beautiful. And just because of that you marry her, I believe that after you married her for 4 months, you will see the woman who sleep next to you as a "flesh meat". Your lust is no more there, you have satisfied yourselves during this 4 months period, and now you find her is not so adorable, is not so sexy, is not so beautiful. You treat her as an object more and more, you tried to satisfy yourselves, but you never try to satisfy her. When you do that, do you realize that you treat her as an object not as a person? And not only that, your hunting ability, your adrenaline start to be active again, one prey has finished, you are looking for another one. You need to satisfy your pride again. So if you love women because of their apperance, you put yourself in danger of committing adultery and divorce.
My brothers, when you see adult movie, can you feel that your eyes captivated you? You can't stay away from it. You just want to continue watching. Lust start to arouse inside you and automatically you lock your room and start masturbating. And it affects your life, your mind so that when you go outside the room, you just looking for prey, "big boob" "nice rack" "tight butt" and all those dirty stuff. Are you not a beast, my brothers? Do you want to be free from that addiction?
Maybe you say that it is normal, not addiction, not sin for almost all men do that. If you keep insist saying that, why you need to lock the door and use your earphone or mute the voice? Why you are afraid to tell your parents about that? Again, if you still insist that normal, please masturbate pubilcly, don't do it in darkness, show it to the light. If you are ashamed of it, that mean it is not normal and it is sin. I was one of them and I don't want to deceive myself more. My Saviour, Jesus Christ has set me free. Glory be to God.
My brothers, I had tried to make many commitments in my life. I have burned my CDs again and again, I have emptied my hard-disk from it, I have confessed to pastors, friends, even parents but still it didn't work. After some time, I came back to my old habits and I did double than before. I pitied myself. I was lost and helpless.
I tried to struggle with my own might, my own power but my flesh is so weak, I had always been defeated by my beast, by animal inside me. Thanks be to God, even though I was ignorant, I never harmed people with my animal instinct, I almost failed but God protected me. I know some of us have fallen for we all have sinned and lost the glory of God, we are all sinner, no one is righteous, not even one. We did that in our ignorance, but now since we know that we are not a beast, that we are human being with clear mind, we should behave like a man. Women or girls are like a buttlefly, they are beautiful but weak, they want to be chased but they fly unpredictly. Those who can capture them are wise.
It is just stupid for men to be jealous. It would be better for them to trust and believe his beloved. To protect and to understand her than to show up and boast about yourself and try to proclaim "We are the best among men, choose us". We are not the frogs on mating period, who will try to make noise and get women's attention. We are not the birds who fly here and there to show how skillful we are. We are there to love and to protect.
I believe if you have those quality in you, woman will love you more, she will submit herself to you without force. Man should love woman as he loves himself and she will trust you and no matter there are lots of "better" men around her, she will never leave you. Woman and man are created to be faithful one another. Jealous comes from pride. We can't accept that somebody better than us and try to get our beloved's attention. Jealous is God' right for He is the One who marvelous, omnipotent, nothing can be compared with Him, it is His right to be proud and boastful, not ours.
Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy (Proverbs 27:4)? Jealousy is more dangerous than anger and God forbid. The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God (Galatians 5:19-21).
It is not that women are difficult to be understood, or men are difficult to be understood. It because we, men and women are different in nature. God create us to help each others, to be suitable helper. What we need to do when we can't understand each other is: try to communicate often, try to open our heart and be honest one another. LOVE is the key.
Women, please don't harass men's pride for it is sensitive for them and please behave yourselves, if you don't want to endanger yourselves from the beast inside him, please do not ever tempt him. Once lust start to arouse inside him, you will be an object, not a person unless that person can control himself well. Bible said, "If they can't control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:9)". But don't be surprise if your marriage will be so boring and routine. Because it happened because of lust, not love, pure love, divine love as Christ dwell in your family.
Brothers, if you still doing masturbation regularly, I know it is very difficult to be free from it. It feels so good, it feel so good. But what happened afterward? You will think "that was it? Why it was so short. I am not satisfied" then you do it more and often. I believe that inside your heart, something condemning you again and again and in your mind it will say "how stupid are you, just because 30 seconds esctacy, you sin before God and you are in danger of hell" Is that what written in your mind?
Jesus said, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart (Matthew 5:28). Brothers, do you know this verse? And do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).
Where are you right now, brother: heaven or hell? Will you inherit the kingdom of God? "Ah, Alvin, you make the heaven so narrow, you are false teacher." Brothers, I have warned you, when you meet God on Great White Throne and are judged by Him, He will open a book and He will make you remember of this day. You better repent or you will perish.
It is not my task to beg you to repent, it is not my job to speak with sweety talk to introduce you to Christ. My task is to preach the Gospel, bring you the truth. And Bible said, "Let him who does wrong continue to do wrong; let him who is vile continue to be vile; let him who does right continue to do right; and let him who is holy continue to be holy (Revelation 22:11)."
But brothers, if you are willing to be saved but you always fall into sins because your animal instinct is so strong. Bible said, "Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak (Mark 14:38)." If you have Holy Spirit inside you, you should be able to fight against your ownself. But if your spirit is dead, you will never really that you are beast in human form until your spirit is quicken and now your eyes are opened. You now see that inside you, 2 laws are applied: law of God and law of sin. You do not understand what you do. For what you want to do you do not do, but what you hate to do you do. Your sin is living in you. Please read Romans 7:7-26 for better understanding.
My questions are: Do you already have Spirit of God inside you? Do you able to win over your flesh? Which one is stronger: your Spirit or your flesh? Or do you notice that you are a sinner, not even yet saved? When you notice that, I rejoice for godly sorrow works repentance to salvation is moving in you. Repentance, Salvation, Faith are Gift of God, it is not because of your works, not also because of your traditions, but because God wants to give them to those who are humble, who are honest to Him, confess their sins and want to surrender all, allow Him to rule over you 100%.
Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up (James 4:8-10).
What you need to do is: go to your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. He will give you a chance to start fresh again. You will be a new creation, He will erase your guilt, your past, your bad memories into abundant life, joy and happiness. For the very first time, peace will start to flow in your heart. Peace that you can't get from the world. Peace from God only, peace that your sins are forgiven and remember no more.
Ask Jesus to give you His eyes, His mind, His heart. I did that and He gave me, I see my sisters with pure love, I don't have lust over them, I treat younger women as sisters and older women as mothers, with absolute purity, but I called them all "my sisters". God dealt with me a lot through trial and self-denial and now I see better, I will weep for those porn actresses for they are children of God who are lost. I know their heart is broken, but they don't have remedy, we need to share with them our light. Again, it is not because of my might, but because God give me richly, I learn how to be selfless and allow Jesus to take over me. I just love Him with all my heart, with all my soul, with all my strength, with all my mind. God bless you all
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