"Nobody care about me", "nobody love me" "I am an alien, I am a stranger" "I feel lonely" "Nobody listen to me" "I really want to talk, to chat with people but they just want me to shut my mouth up" "I don't want to spend the nights alone" "Why the night seem so long?" "I wish tomorrow come earlier so that I could be together again with my friends" "I wish I have a true friend, even though it just one, I promise I will treasure him"
My friends, If those statements fit you, it means you are lonely. You want to have a true friend but you can't find. In your heart it seem like you want to shout loudly from the top of your roof, "Hey people of the world, it is me. I am alive. I am here. I am exist. Talk with me." "Why everybody is busy with their own? Why I am alone? Why nobody want to be my friends?"
It is our nature to be heard, to be listened, to be loved, to be acknowledged that we are exist. And if our need can't be satisfied, we are having a big problem.
Some of you will choose to stay in quietness, shut your mouth and make yourself busy by playing games, working without end, or even going to personal development class, etc. You have tried to find people who want to speak with you, but you can't and in the end you just got tired and choose to keep silent. You find life is so boring, everyday is the same and you don't know what to do, life is just a routine. To deal with it, you look for something to occupy yourself in it.
I always wonder myself for when I was a kid I used to ask my father to play Nintendo or PS with me, but he always refused. He said it is not for him for he had better thing to do. But if I see people today, mature people spend sleepless night with their online games, they don't go to work, don't take care of themselves, just playing all the day. Even the 60 years old nanny still jump and dance with their console. They become like me when I was a kid. What's going on in this earth, my friends? Are there not many better things to do instead of wasting the day playing?
The reason is they want to have friends, but everybody is busy with their own. They need something to make them occupied, to make them happy, to make them forget their boring life, to have pleasure from it. They are lonely, and if the lonely person met another lonely person, they make groups called "online gathering", with their dual personality. There somebody can say "Hi, I am Uncle Sam", "I am George Bush", and nobody cares, you can be whatever you like. They are chatting each other, teasing each other, even falling in love one another in the cyber space, the unreal world.
Many of those who addicted to computer games are having problems during interaction with people. They are not used to talk with people face by face for they spend the whole day in front of monitor. They don't know how to open conversation, to be a good listener, good speaker for they spend the whole day in silent, occupied with their games. They need to find a true friend, not something to make them occupied.
Some of you like to go and find crowd. You like to go to the party, just to be in the midst of people. You don't want to stay alone in your room, waiting the night to end. You don't want those nightmares to come and haunt you again and again. The later the night, the more the people come to the party. Party clubs will be fully crowded at 2 am. Can you imagine that, my friends? When many people are sleeping, you choose to stay awake and even spend money to go in there.
What you are doing there? Many of you just sit there, doing nothing, just want the night to change into the morning. Many of you just want to look for partner to talk with, to convince the world that you are exist. "Here I am, please speak to me, I don't want to be lonely. That the reason why I am partying here. I hope that in the midst of people, I would be able to find at least one person who want to listen and speak with me". That's what stated in your mind, is it not? If you are honest to yourself, many of you don't have any idea why you are there, some part of your heart want to go home and sleep, but in another place of your heart also give you fear of loneliness again. You force yourself to be there.
Then with the atmosphere of party, with the sexy dressing, with the alcohol, with the loud house music, devil has lied to you, devil has robbed you. Girls sell themselves cheap, boys take this advantage. Girls think "I don't want to sleep alone, I don't care if stranger sleep with me, as long as I am not alone. I will "use" them to fill my loneliness". Boys also think "I wanna fuck with those bitches, I will "use" them to satisfied my beast desire. I am on my mating period. Let's have one night stand." Both of them are using each others. Both of them are lonely. And in the end, you are trapped into this kind of life. You ruin your own life. Spirit of loneliness is upon you.
Many of people (teenagers, adults, olds are alike) are lonely. They always think to have a partner. "I am alone, I am single, everybody has partner, I also want to have boyfriend or girlfriend" and because of that boys and girls in their teen ages already lost their virginity. Valentine day become one of the wicked day of the year where the boy ask his girlfriend to show her love by agreeing to have sex, to give him a "special present". They don't know the true love means.
Many of them lack of love, either from their parents or from their friends. Then they decided to go to the world but because they are not ready for that, they become a prey of wolves. I met a man who tell me that he can differenciate between a virgin and not virgin. He came from the society where the people like to take girls' virginity for their pride. "I score her". They spend time and money to get a virgin girl, make love with her and leave her and so proud of himself. What a wicked and fallen world.
People are selfish, they just think their own pleasure and devil has taken advantage from that. Nowadays, people love each others just based on their appearance. When they are still beautiful, still rich, still have something to offer, they would be loved. But when everything is gone, they will just left abandoned like a grass withered.
Parents divorce, parents abuse their children for their own sake, not their children's sake. Can you imagine what happen when the innocent and pure children see how their happy home, happy family, their glass house scatter? They will choose to find love from outside and the world is too wicked for them, they just easy target of those wolves. The boys will trap into drugs and sex, the girls will go to prostitute and sell herself cheap. And in the end, they repeat the same mistakes their parents did. How sad the situation is. Spirit of loneliness has killed a lot of people spiritually, they are spiritually dead.
The family relationship that God use to show His relationship with men, between husband and wife where there is a faithfulness as Christ and His church, between father and child where there is love as Father in heaven with us, have already broken. Devil has taken captive on many families, their future is at stake.
There is another phenomenon where many girls or women join hot chatting zone and boys or men become their guests. Again, it is driven by the spirit of loneliness. They use webcam and the men ask the women, "You are so hot, adorable, can I see your body?" and the girls really show her body to those strangers, somebody they don't know. Is it not weird, but why they still do that? What motivated them? They just want to have partner to chat so that the days walk so fast and they can forget their boring life and if their chatting is just normal, nobody wants to talk with her, so it must be special, which is "chatting plus sex".
Or the men/women like to see porn website and masturbate because they are lonely too, can't have sex in real life or because their husband or wife can't satisfy them. Sex tools are becoming a hard selling. Sex dolls, breast-like silicone, dildo, animation (hentai) or even worse, because they can't find sex partner with human being, they do it with animals. This world is really crazy. Many of us have become sex addicted driven by spirit of loneliness.
sex doll with the mouth wide open
Everyday you sinned before God and because of that your heart condemned you and for the same reason, you kill your own heart, for the guilt is too much for you to bear. You declare yourself as an atheist, just to get rid God. "I don't believe in God" for you think if there is no God, there is no judgment, so that no matter how evil you do, you will not face judgment in hell and you can enjoy the life in "freedom".
Hebrews 9:27
Another behaviour driven by the same spirit: lack of public attention.
Some of you think if you are talkative enough, people will talk with you, you think that if you talk to everybody, at least some of them will listen so that you will have good conversation, But the result is not like that, people will just get irritated with you. People will say to you, "Sorry, I am busy. I don't have time for that, go and find other people". You talk and talk until you are tired of yourself.
Some of you think if you are funny enough, people will notice you. Many of you like to tell jokes, make yourself a fool just to gain attention and after you tell your biggest jokes, you laugh out loud, alone because you always tell the same jokes. For the first time people laugh, for the second time they still laugh, but for the third time they will think that you are boring. Or some of you will always try and try to make a new joke, you force yourself to do that. Do you know what will happen? In my country many comedians use drugs, commit suicide. Why? Because they are deceiving themselves. They make fun of themselves just to make people happy. They lower their level to "stupidity" that no one in this world would be stupid enough to think and to behave like that and for them it is funny. They job to make other people happy even though they themselves are not happy. In the end, people will just laugh at your stupidity not at your joke.
Imagine, you are 40 or 50 years old, but you behave like a child or even you act like a monkey,, you make your face like a clown. Sorry, I am not condemning people who are comedians. They are a lot of genius comedians who speak with wisdom, not making fool of themselves. They are the true comedians and they are happy. But to those people who make themselves fool just to make other people laugh and get attention, you are in great danger of losing yourself, my friends. Please think about it.
Some of them think if they are weird enough, people will think that they are exist. They tattoed themselves, pierced themselves, modified themselves. They make their tongue divided like a serpent, they modified their teeth like animal, they even have electronic tail. Do you think it is cool? They are not cool but they are indeed weird. These people have problem with public attention, with acceptance from others, they lack of praise, they lack of care. They are deceiving themselves.
How about you? How many tattoo you have? How many piercing you have? Go and ask your mother about it, if she is the good mother, she will be very upset. My friends, you are fearfully and wonderful made by God. He used His wisdom to create you, you are not a mistake, you are not a failure. God has purpose in making you the way you are. Do you know that you are insulting God, your Creator, if you modified your body and can't accept what He has given you?
Some of you will do your best to join Idol contests, superstar contests or beauty contests. You want to make yourself as an "idol". You want people to commit idolatry by idolizing you and at the same time, you make yourself as an object. You are no more of yourself, you always think to please your audiences, even though you yourself are not happy about it. You have to wear bikini suit in front of many people even though you are not in the swimming pool so that people can see the beauty of your body, you have to learn how to answer those question to satisfy the people even though it doesn't agree with your own mind, you have to reply every postcards, and you the worst part is, you make people commit adultery with you for the Bible said, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart (Matthew 5:28)". Maybe you don't realize how many young and old men do masturbation because they see your almost naked body? Do you feel comfortable in doing that?
Now you are still young, you don't have children yet, your digest system still work perfect. Once you are pregnant, once your digest system start to deplete, you can't keep your body. Will those people still love you? I don't think so. There will always be another pop-stars, another idols. And how about your face? Wrinkle start to appear and your beauty faded away. What will you do? Plastic surgery, botox injection? You are deceiving yourself and others by doing that. You are 40 years old and still want to appear like a 17 years old. My friends, you are also in great danger. Your loneliness, your lack of praise, lack of public attention will drag you from bad to worse.
Some of you can't hold yourself, even though you know that you lack of talent in singing, you keep trying and trying, every casting of those idol contests you were there trying your luck and the result is the same, you are rejected or they will put you as a fool for their own TV polling program, they make fun of you, they give you difficult song to sing and people will again laugh at your stupidity and your false tunes but you still think you are awesome. This is meaningless, my friends, chasing after the wind. The beauty of the people is in their character, their heart, their behaviour, not their appearance.
Are you not tired of this kind of lies? Why you keep deceiving yourself, my friends?
My friends, there is only one True Friend in this world, even though you are faithless, He is still faithful for He can't disown Himself (2 Timothy 2:13). His name is Jesus. He has time for you, He will listen whatever you want to talk to, He will accompany you even through your darkness time. His rod and His staff will comfort you, you shall not in want for He always satisfy your need. He even died for you, for His love on you.
He love you more than anybody in this world can do. He shows the way to the Almighty God, He give you spirit of sonship so you can call your God, "Abba, Father". God who by His word the universe was created, will call you "My son, my daughter". You are fearfully and wonderfully made, you are loved by Him. He has prepared many good things for you in His store. He just wait and wait until you, with your own freewill, your whole heart ready to submit yourself fully to Him. He will not force you to know Him, even though He is there, in front of the door of your heart knocking. He wants you in your consciousness, come to Him and say, "God, help me. I am totally lost. I need you."
Then, He will show who He is, He will show Himself strong, How mighty He is, How beautiful He is, How full of love He is. He love you with all His heart, my friends. He is the True Friend that you are looking for eternity long. He will give you peace, everlasting peace in your heart, peace that you can't find it in the world for in the world you will only find tribulation, but He has overcome it for you. He removed all the record of your wrongdoing. You can start your life from a new beginning, He will recreate you into a new creation.
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
But, one thing you lack. You must be born again, you must repent and ask forgiveness with all your heart. And once you do that, it is not magic, but it is true, something will start to happen in your life, your perspective, your mind, your thought will change. You will have renewal of the mind, you will not think like the world think, you will experience everlasting joy, you will now be able to love yourself and because of that, you are now be able to love your neighbours as you love yourself. For it is impossible for somebody to love others, if he hates himself. And if you can't love your brothers who you have seen, how can you love God who you haven't seen? My friends, without love of God, we can't stand against this world, we will always fall into Satan's trap. We love because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). God loves you, my friends. He wants to be your Friend, and He is a faithful Friend.
My brothers and my sisters in the Lord, show people your love, many of them really need your love, your care, your ears to listen, your shoulder to cry on, they are lost. We are the children of the Light, we have the light, but the world in in darkness. It is our fault the world like this, we didn't share our light to them, we are idle, we are busibodied, we didn't tell them that God loves them and wants them to come to repentance so that they can be saved, to love the Truth. My brethrens, go light our world. Jesus is our Saviour. Praise the Lord. God bless you
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